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Atria’s Alexa Smart Properties: Seamless senior living

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Atria Senior Living is the first senior living brand to deploy large scale, nationwide Alexa Smart Properties products. The new technology makes it easier than ever for residents to call the front desk, ask for transportation, and alert staff to a maintenance need. The devices also display curated video screens announcing upcoming Atria’s Engage Life® events, important announcements and daily menus.

 

 

The first wave of Atria’s Alexa Smart Properties include:
Atria Newport Beach
Atria Del Sol
Atria at Foster Square
Atria La Jolla
Atria Woodbriar Place
Atria Rocklin
Atria Santa Clarita
Atria Hillcrest
Atria Valley View

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Financials

Estate planning: Preparing for the future

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When should you start estate planning? What does family estate planning involve, and how do you decide between a trust and a will? What are the different types of trusts?

It’s no wonder why people find the estate planning process so daunting. To help you on your journey, this article demystifies some of the key steps and considerations that go into making an estate plan. You’ll also learn why it’s important to start planning early.

Writing a will

You’re likely already familiar with the basics of a last will and testament. This document outlines how you’d like your assets to be distributed upon death. Apart from asset distribution, though, a will includes several important sections, such as:

    1. Your name and a declaration that this document supersedes any previous wills
    2. Appointment of guardianship for minor children
    3. Selection of an executor (and backup executor) and assigning trustee powers to those responsible for managing your assets
    4. Outline of beneficiaries and instructions for distributing possessions among them

You might also include provisions in the event of a beneficiary’s life circumstances changing. For example, if your child is listed as a beneficiary, you could structure the will so that their spouse won’t receive your child’s inheritance in the event of a divorce.

Melissa Negrin-Weiner, Esq. – a senior partner with Long Island-based firm Cona Elder Law – notes that “The importance of a will can vary with age. For example, younger couples with minor children must make sure they appoint a guardian for those children should something happen to both parents. Older individuals may be more concerned with passing along a family heirloom or piece of personal property.”

This is one reason why updating your will is just as important as setting it up in the first place. Before you talk to an estate attorney, think about what you want your will to do. Once you have a clear idea of how you want to distribute your assets, a professional can help you translate those preferences into legal language.

An often-frustrating part of executing a will is the probate process – a long and often expensive court process for “proving” a will. Because this isn’t a private process, assets and their beneficiaries are public knowledge.

Negrin-Weiner points out that naming beneficiaries on assets like IRAs and creating joint accounts is one way to skirt this cumbersome process. “Typically, when one joint owner passes away, the property or account automatically passes to the other owner without any need for court involvement. And naming beneficiaries on accounts such as transfer on death (TOD) or in trust for (ITF) allows for those accounts to pass to the named individual immediately.”

She says another common way to avoid probate is through a trust.

A closer look at trusts

A primary difference between wills and trusts is that wills define your wishes for after you pass, while a trust is initiated while you’re still alive. In a trust, a grantor places an estate under the management of a trustee who is responsible for distributing assets to beneficiaries after the grantor’s death.

When choosing between a will and trust, the size of your estate may be one of the biggest determining factors. Generally speaking, for those with assets that exceed $500,000, a trust is more advantageous. That’s because setting up a trust has fixed costs, so the benefits increase with a larger estate. On the other hand, if the estate has less than $200,000 in assets, a will is typically the better financial choice.

Even so, for many it comes down to personal experience and preference. For those with a smaller estate who’ve had a negative experience with probate, they may still prefer to set up a trust. If you’re considering a trust, you’ll want to work closely with an estate planning attorney to understand which type of trust best suits your individual needs. Some estate lawyers would even advise that you don’t choose between a will and a trust, but use a combination of the two to ensure all of your assets are covered.

To help you prepare, we’ll go over the two most common types of trusts: revocable and irrevocable trusts.

Revocable trusts: Retaining control and flexibility

Revocable trusts, also known as living trusts, are established while the grantor is alive and mentally fit to continue managing assets. By naming themself and their spouse as trustees, a grantor can continue to sell, trade or acquire assets within the trust.

It’s still important to designate beneficiaries, though, as they’ll receive the assets when the grantor passes – at which point the trust becomes irrevocable. Beneficiaries may also be called to manage assets if the grantor is no longer able to do so themself.

While it may be tempting find a quick solution to navigating the challenges of setting up a trust, AARP warns against generic living trust kits found online, which are unlikely to fit individual circumstances. If you’re considering setting up a trust, work closely with an attorney who can customize the document to your specific situation.

Irrevocable trusts: Protecting assets and avoiding taxes

Negrin-Wiener notes that while a revocable trust can help your family avoid probate and limit disagreements between family members, it won’t protect you from creditors or lawsuits. An irrevocable trust, on the other hand, is often used to protect assets so individuals can apply for Medicaid benefits without spending down their assets on long-term care.

Unlike a revocable trust, an irrevocable trust cannot be altered by the owner unless all beneficiaries agree. Numerous state-specific laws govern this type of trust, making it essential to collaborate with an estate planning attorney to ensure compliance with all requirements.

While relinquishing control over assets is a drawback, there are advantages in certain situations. The benefits of an irrevocable trust include:

    1. Protection from taxes: As the assets no longer belong to the grantor, the estate becomes shielded from some estate taxes
    2. Avoiding probate: As previously mentioned, probate can be expensive and delay asset distribution to beneficiaries
    3. Asset reduction: This isn’t just about evading estate taxes – certain government assistance programs have maximum income thresholds for eligibility; placing assets in an irrevocable trust may enable the grantor to access services they otherwise couldn’t afford, such as long-term care

According to the American Council on Aging, older adults applying for Medicaid long-term care generally have an asset limit of approximately $2,000. However, higher valued assets like primary residences, wedding rings and vehicles may be considered exempt. Nevertheless, individuals exceeding the asset limit often still struggle to cover the cost of care. An irrevocable trust helps older adults protect their assets, such as a home, while seeking financial assistance for their care.

It’s important to note that establishing this type of trust doesn’t protect your assets if you require immediate care. Medicaid enforces a five-year “look-back period,” which considers assets transferred to a trust within the last five years as viable for covering care costs. However, if you are in reasonably good health and don’t anticipate requiring skilled nursing care within the next five years, an irrevocable trust can safeguard your assets should the need arise.

Ultimately, working closely with your attorney can help you understand if a revocable or irrevocable trust is the better fit for your situation. In addition to staying in compliance with state regulations and requirements, Negrin-Weiner points out that a knowledgeable attorney can help you make the most of whichever type of trust you choose. “A carefully drafted irrevocable trust does allow for flexibility in your asset protection plan,” she says.

The importance of estate planning

Regardless of whether a will or a trust is a better fit for your situation, there are many reasons to put a plan in place for the future of your estate.

First, life is unpredictable. If you pass without a legal document clarifying your wishes, your assets will be distributed according to state laws, which may not align with your preferences. Moreover, without clear instructions, survivors are left guessing your intentions.

Negrin-Weiner says, “Preparing your will or trust well before a healthcare crisis ensures that your wishes will be carried out and that you will be able to preserve your hard-earned assets.”

Perhaps one of the best indicators of a successful estate plan is avoiding family conflict. Anything you can do to provide clarity and guidance will help alleviate grief, greed and unresolved childhood dynamics.

More information

In addition to award-winning senior living, Atria offers helpful resources on many aspects of retirement. Contact your local Atria Senior Living community for more information on estate planning services in your area.

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Caregiving

Six tips for caregiving during the holidays

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Family, traditions, favorite dishes and good cheer. These can all be harder to enjoy when you’re also caring for someone with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia during the holidays.

In addition to the burnout that can accompany providing care year-round, caregivers may experience heightened frustration with family members who don’t appear to be offering a helping hand when they’re in town, or don’t show appreciation for a caregiver’s efforts. It can also be hard for caregivers to participate in their own holiday traditions – from preparing meals to hosting gatherings – resulting in feelings of anger over missed opportunities or guilt.

From reducing your workload to preparing your parent or spouse for a shift from routine, these six tips will help you manage the stress that comes with providing dementia holiday care – making it a merrier time for you, the person you care for and those you celebrate with.

1. It’s okay to say no

Even if you’ve always hosted the family get-together or lovingly prepared a classic dish, if you have new caregiver responsibilities, this year may be different.

The first step to avoid feeling overwhelmed when caregiving during the holidays is to be realistic with yourself about your capacity. The second step is to let other people know.

Tell friends and family about your limited availability and energy level so other arrangements can be made. This doesn’t mean don’t celebrate. In fact, it’s just the opposite. One of the most important reasons to draw boundaries on what you’re able to do is so that you – and the person you care for – can enjoy the events that you do participate in.

2. Communicate

It can be hard to talk about a parent or spouse’s cognitive decline. However, for caregivers who frequently experience burnout, communicating about the realities of the situation is critical for managing stress.

Many people don’t know how to interact with someone experiencing cognitive decline. Reaching out with a little information in advance of a festive gathering can help everyone feel more comfortable. The National Institute on Aging offers a few tips for what information to share.

  • First, let people know about any new limitations and encourage them not to correct the person with dementia if they misremember a name or event.
  • Offer tips for gentle ways to introduce oneself – including adding context about how they know the person you’re caring for.
  • Remind them that talking loudly, getting too close or being patronizing could be aggravating.
  • Finally, suggest fun, ability-appropriate activities that everyone can participate in together.

If the diagnosis is new, consider including an article or links to resources about Alzheimer’s and how it affects memory. Though it can be uncomfortable to share a diagnosis, your friends and family will likely appreciate the information and feel more confident in their interactions because you provided them with a better understanding of the situation. It may also help them develop greater empathy for your role as a caregiver.

3. Continue to celebrate together

Making time to celebrate the season can provide caregivers with a feeling of connection and support that isn’t always present the rest of the year – and it can be beneficial for the person they care for. According to the National Institute on Aging, familiar events and traditions tap into long-term memory and can be reassuring to people with dementia.

Even when you aren’t gathered with friends and family, take the opportunity to share meaningful moments and activities with the person you care for. This might include flipping through a photo album and listening to their stories or performing holiday preparations together. Accomplishing small tasks offers those with memory impairment a sense of purpose and control. Even if they are no longer able to actively participate, sensory stimulation like listening to familiar songs, enjoying a favorite holiday treat and watching you decorate can help them anticipate the coming events.

4. Adapt traditions

The holidays are often joyful because they offer a departure from normal daily activities and an opportunity to connect with friends and family. However, large groups and changes in routine can be very difficult for those experiencing cognitive decline. When you’re managing dementia and the holidays, making a few small changes can go a long way. While the holidays may not look like they have in the past, traditions can still be honored with thoughtful adaptations.

Here are a few ways to make the holidays go smoothly:

  • Help the person you care for prepare in advance. By regularly showing photos and sharing stories about visitors and guests who will be stopping by, these friends and family will feel more familiar when they come to visit.
  • Plan activities for when the person living with dementia is at their best. If your family usually gathers for holiday dinner but your spouse or parent is at their best around noon, suggest moving the event to lunch.
  • Host celebrations in familiar spaces. While you may not be able to play host, if the person living with dementia is most comfortable at home, invite people over and delegate host tasks to family and friends.
  • Designate a quiet space. During the event itself, you can help reduce agitation by making sure there’s a quiet place where your parent or spouse can safely retreat to rest or accept visitors one-on-one. You can also plan in advance to break up the festivities with quieter, routine activities for the person living with dementia, such as a short walk or reading in another room.

Making efforts to ensure the person you’re caring for is comfortable will reduce agitation and improve their mood – making celebrating better for everyone.

5. Ask for help

AARP notes that for some caregivers, the only thing harder than providing constant care is releasing control and accepting help. While it can be tempting to try to take on everything, assistance is key to providing care for the long haul. Fortunately, the holidays provide the perfect time to ask for help – wherever you may need it.

Consider enlisting a family member to take over caregiving duties so you can attend a party with friends. Or if you just need a little help with errands or chores, you can hire a personal assistant or housekeeper for a few hours to help you stay caught up with daily tasks. Your local community or state may also offer resources, like adult daycare, so you can take care of personal matters or enjoy a moment of rest.

Beyond getting help through the holidays, many caregivers will put a home health aide or a short-term senior living stay on their holiday wish list. That way, when the holidays are over, caregivers can still get the help they need.

6. Care for yourself

As previously noted, it can be difficult for many caregivers to care for themselves. Sometimes this is due to feelings of guilt or concerns that no one else can do the job as well as they can. Either way, making sure your needs are met is the only way to ensure you can continue to meet the needs of others.

While caregiving during the holidays, offer yourself the small kindness of simplifying tasks. If your family exchanges gifts, consider purchasing them online, ask a friend to wrap them or simply get gift cards. If you decorate homemade cookies every year, consider getting a mix or a kit. In addition to reducing your load, sometimes you need to take a break from it altogether. Whether it’s the holidays or not, designate time to see friends, hit the gym or get a massage.

It’s also okay to take a vacation. When you’re ready for a reset, consider short-term stay options for the person you care for. Atria Senior Living offers short-term stays in furnished apartments with full-time staff on-site. This provides a healthy, social lifestyle for older adults, as well as respite for their caregivers. Find a community near you to learn more about flexible, short-term stay options.

Caregivers and the holidays

Resentment can spoil even the best celebration. That’s why it’s important to show empathy to yourself and the person you care for during the busy holiday season – and all year long.

Start by identifying your limits and communicating them to others. Setting clear expectations will help everyone adapt. Traditions may also need to be adjusted so the person you care for can participate comfortably. Finally, accept help and take care of yourself. With these holiday tips for caregivers, you’re sure to keep your spirit bright.

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Family Dynamics

Understanding power of attorney for your elderly parent

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As our parents grow older, we have to discuss difficult topics such as finances and healthcare decisions – and who will make those decisions should your parent become unable to.

It can be scary to bring up power of attorney because that transfer of authority is often seen as a loss of independence. But if you’re taking care of your parents, having this discussion sooner rather than later may reduce stress and help ensure your parent receives proper care when the need arises.

Let’s explore what power of attorney means, the emotional aspects surrounding it, the different types of power of attorney, and the value of putting it in place before a health scare or some other unplanned event occurs.

What is power of attorney?

Power of attorney (POA) is a legal document that grants an individual the authority to make decisions on behalf of another person. A power of attorney for aging parents ensures continuity of care and clear decision-making when your parent can’t make informed decisions due to physical or mental incapacity.

Estate attorney David Reischer says the power of attorney goes hand in hand with a living will because it “allows a person to make their intent known in anticipation of a possible future moment when intent cannot be communicated.”

Reischer explains that having both a living will and durable power of attorney ensures a trusted representative has the authority to make healthcare decisions when a parent is no longer able to.

When should you create a power of attorney?

Generally speaking, a power of attorney for your aging parent should be in place before it’s needed. Here are three circumstances where you’ll find power of attorney to be an especially valuable tool.

Before a health event occurs

Does your parent have a significant health issue that needs to be managed on an ongoing basis? This could range from a chronic condition such as diabetes or dementia to a terminal illness.

Creating a power of attorney protects your parent – and the family – if they ever become incapacitated. Some families execute a power of attorney before their parent undergoes major surgery just in case of any complications.

To help you assist with finances

Is your elderly parent having trouble paying their bills or managing a budget? A power of attorney can allow you to handle their financial affairs, ensuring your parent’s money stays in good hands.

When it makes life easier for your parent

A power of attorney isn’t always related to future concerns about health or finances. Some older people want a POA as a matter of convenience. For instance, if your parent is out of town and wants to sign some important papers without having to return home, a power of attorney would allow you to act on their behalf.

Benefits of establishing power of attorney in advance

Here are a few compelling reasons to create a power of attorney before it’s needed:

  • Reduced stress: Discussing and establishing power of attorney in advance eliminates the pressure of making these decisions during a health crisis, allowing for thoughtful consideration, legal consultations, and clear communication of wishes – reducing anxiety for everyone.
  • Honoring personal preferences: Establishing power of attorney early makes it possible for parents to express their preferences while they are still capable of providing input on healthcare decisions, financial matters and overall well-being.
  • Family harmony: Power of attorney can be emotionally charged, especially when left until the last minute. Tackling this topic proactively facilitates open and honest discussions as family members collaborate to find common ground and make decisions focused on the best interests of a parent.
  • Sound legal advice: Initiating the power of attorney process early gives families more time to receive guidance from legal professionals experienced in elder law, ensuring that all necessary documents are in place and tailored to individual needs.
  • Taking care of your elderly parents: A power of attorney is an essential legal document – and a whole lot more. You can think of it as an act of love for your parent to make sure they are cared for according to their wishes when they can no longer manage things themselves.

Types of power of attorney

A power of attorney states who can make decisions on behalf of another person. This person is known as an “agent” or “attorney-in-fact.” The rules for a power of attorney vary, so be sure to understand the guidelines for the state you live in.

Powers of attorney can be specific, general or durable:

  • A specific POA only lets the agent manage a defined list of tasks and is usually in place for a limited time. For example, if someone is out of town for an extended period and asks their agent to manage their finances during that time.
  • A general POA provides the agent with more authority, such as managing someone’s affairs on an ongoing basis – but the authority ends when a person becomes unable to make their own decisions.
  • When it comes to an aging parent, you will want to create a durable power of attorney, which gives the agent authority to act on another’s behalf when they become incapacitated. One major benefit of a durable power of attorney is that you will not have to seek court approval to manage your parent’s affairs.

Choosing the right durable power of attorney

Next, you will choose a durable power of attorney that fits your parent’s needs. Here is a brief look at the options:

  • Financial power of attorney for aging parents: With a financial power of attorney, your parent grants you the right to direct their financial affairs. The financial POA can specify which matters you can handle – like paying bills or managing retirement accounts – or it might be broader in scope. Your parent might grant you authority to carry out their wishes for one activity or give you far broader authority. The power of attorney spells out exactly what the duties are, from paying your parent’s bills to running their business.
  • Medical power of attorney for elderly parents: A medical power of attorney empowers you to make medical decisions for your parent. These decisions are spelled out in a medical directive or living will, which details your parent’s medical care preferences. A medical directive may be combined with a healthcare directive or medical power of attorney. These documents clearly state what sort of treatment your parent wants so you can honor their desires. This helps reduce anxiety for the family during stressful times.
  • Keep in mind that it’s smart to update a power of attorney as needed.

Establishing a power of attorney and family dynamics

Signing over authority to make decisions can evoke feelings of vulnerability and loss of control. Your parent might see it as surrendering their independence and an acknowledgement of declining health.

As a caregiver, you may struggle to address the subject because you don’t want to cause discomfort or resentment. However, it’s far worse to avoid this discussion, as it can have serious consequences during a health crisis. For example, should your parent become incapacitated without a power of attorney in place, you might have to seek court approval to manage their affairs.

So, how do you set the stage for a successful POA discussion?

First, when speaking about powers of attorney, frame the discussion around your parent’s point of view. Instead of telling them what they should do, explain that you want to get their input so you can help them make the best choices. Avoid criticizing your parent or pressuring them.

Second, if you already have a history of helping your parent with everyday matters like doctors’ appointments or visits with a lawyer, they probably know you care about their welfare and that they can trust you. That trust will go a long way in having a productive conversation about the future.

Atria Senior Living empowers families with peace of mind

As a leading provider of senior living communities, Atria knows all about difficult conversations, including the vital importance of establishing power of attorney for you and your parent. In addition to being a great place to live, Atria communities can provide a wealth of valuable resources for older adults. Contact your local community to learn more about legal resources in your area.

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Caregiving

Should we consider in-home care for my aging parent?

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When a parent or family member requires care that is beyond your capability to provide, what do you do? Bringing in a professional caregiver for your parent so they can continue living at home may seem like the obvious choice. In this article, we will share the benefits and limitations of home health care. We will also address this question: What are some other options if in-home care might not be right for your mom or dad?

In-home care for aging parents, defined

In-home care is a large, growing, well-established practice that’s designed for people who’d like to continue living in their home but need regular care. Some families hire professional caregivers to provide companionship for their parent when they can’t be there. More typically, the person needs someone to look after them while providing personal care services. If your parent lives with you ­– or you’ve moved into your parent’s house – bringing in a competent, caring home health professional might help your parent while relieving you of caregiver responsibilities.

Does your parent need in-home care?

When you arrange for in-home care services, the provider will perform an assessment based on your parent’s activities of daily living, or ADLs.

Here are the six essential activities of daily living, which may reveal your parent’s ability to look after themselves:

  • Ambulating: Ability to move and walk on one’s own
  • Personal hygiene: Bathing and other aspects of grooming
  • Continence: Controlling bladder and bowel functions
  • Dressing: Selecting and putting on clothing
  • Feeding: Eating on one’s own
  • Toileting: Using the toilet and cleaning oneself

Another key measurement is instrumental activities of daily living, or IADLs.

Here are the six IADL factors that make it possible for someone to live independently:

  • Competent management of personal finances
  • Obtaining and taking prescription medications as directed
  • Communicating successfully using phone and mail
  • Shopping for necessities including food and clothing
  • Cleaning the house and kitchen
  • Ability to prepare meals

Using these assessments will help determine the level of in-home care your parent will need.

Quiz: Does your parent need home care?

In-home care’s pros and cons

Once you have a clear idea of what sort of in-home care your parent requires, it’s time to determine the benefits and drawbacks of these services.

Pros

Living at home
In-home care makes it possible for your parent to continue living safely at home

Personalized care
Your parent is cared for one-on-one – with services customized to fit his or her likes and needs

Caregiver selection
You and your family select and approve the caregiver who will work with your parent

Caregiver familiarity
Mom or Dad becomes acquainted with the caregiver, which may increase their comfort with the arrangement and reduce loneliness and isolation

Customized costs
Costs are based on the services delivered, so you won’t pay for anything your parent doesn’t need

Cons

Accelerating costs
The more care that’s needed, the higher the cost will be; in the U.S., the average cost for round-the-clock in-home care is $2,800 per week (the actual price is driven by a variety of factors, including where you live)

Varied quality
Should your parent require 24/7 care, multiple caregivers may handle tasks, and the quality of care might not be the same between one caregiver and another

Care management
When you hire an in-home caregiver, you and the family become the caregiver’s “management team,” which increases the odds of bringing on the right caregiver by asking the right questions

Home modifications
Even with in-home care, the home may need modifications to make it safe for older adults – this might include everything from grab bars to wheelchair ramps to modifying the width of bathroom doors

Limited services
The in-home care agency may not provide services such as grocery shopping or cleaning the house – and you will still need to manage or outsource home maintenance like cleaning the gutters and shoveling snow

If the pros outnumber the cons, you might be on your way to a great solution for your parent that will keep them right where they want to be – in their own home. However, if any of the downsides above give you pause – or if you discover that the cost will be higher than expected – an assisted living community might make more sense.

What is assisted living, and will it benefit your parent?

Despite the fact that more than 900,000 people live in assisted living communities across the U.S., the general public is often unclear on what assisted living is and how it differs from other senior living options.

“Senior living” is an umbrella term covering 55+ neighborhoods that include apartments, condos or townhomes – along with planned communities where room, board and care are included in a single monthly fee.

Assisted living offers around-the-clock attention for each resident’s personal needs, be it managing their medications or helping them get dressed and bathe. Many assisted living communities have full-time licensed nurses on staff, and some communities have a nurse on-site 24/7.

What if your parent is experiencing cognitive decline?

If your parent has Alzheimer’s or another type of dementia, consider the advantages of a memory care community. Similar to assisted living (in fact, memory care is often offered within assisted living communities), memory care provides security and safety in a private area dedicated to supporting the unique needs of people with cognitive impairment.

How does assisted living differ from nursing homes?

Just to be clear: Assisted living and memory care are not the same as nursing homes. Nursing home residents require more care than what is typically offered at an assisted living community, such as palliative care. Nursing homes have a clinical setting that is closer to a hospital or rehab center and usually don’t provide the social and wellness opportunities you’ll find at an assisted living community.

Pros and cons of assisted living communities

Pros

Lower costs
Assisted living might cost less than an in-home option if around-the-clock care is needed

Adjustable care and costs
The amount of care – and therefore, the cost – can be raised or lowered as needed

Improved family dynamics
Since the family isn’t managing the care and home maintenance, they can concentrate on spending quality time with Mom or Dad

Socially stimulating
Your parent will have daily opportunities to socialize and form new friendships with other assisted living residents

Expert-led nutrition services
In some communities, menus crafted by a culinary team trained in senior nutrition offer varied and healthy meal options

Programs designed for older adults
Some communities offer programs designed to engage older adults and encourage them to pursue their interests

Cons

Moving challenges
Your parent might be leaving a home they love, and they’d likely need to part with some personal belongings in a move to assisted living

Potential extra costs
Should a very high level of personal attention be needed, you might need to hire a private duty aide; this will cost extra

Shared common spaces
While many residents thrive in an assisted living community, some people shy away from group environments

Making a fully informed decision

When comparing in-home care options, always have a licensed home health care agency do a thorough assessment of your parent’s needs. If you’d like to learn more about assisted living, this blog has some useful information. Also, feel free to reach out to your local Atria community director today for resources and support.

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Should your elderly parent move in with you?

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Many older people enjoy life independently for many years without incident –and then, one day, something happens. Your parent slips and falls. They become ill and can’t care for themselves. The normal tasks of daily living become too much to handle. Occasional forgetfulness turns into a noticeable cognitive decline. You may wonder if it’s safe for Mom or Dad to continue living on their own.

Is moving in with your parent – or having them move in with you – the right move? There can be advantages when a parent moves in. It will give the family a chance to enjoy each other’s company. If Mom or Dad is active and has the energy, they can help around the house, babysit the kids and maybe even contribute financially. Moving elderly parents in typically costs less than relocating them to a senior living community.

On the other hand, there is a different set of costs to look at. You might have less privacy, more inconvenience and a disruption to the daily rhythm of your household.

Ask yourself these questions before committing to moving your parent out of their home and into yours.

Checklist: Preparing for Your Parent to Move In 

1. How much personal care will be required?

Take time to think about the types of care – and the level of expertise – that your parent requires. To do this, consider how your mom or dad is doing physically, mentally and emotionally. Are they able to manage the basic activities of daily living? This includes things a healthy adult takes for granted, such as bathing or showering, getting dressed and using the toilet. What will happen when your parent’s health changes in the future? Make plans for it now. If being your parent’s primary caregiver makes you anxious, but you still feel you “must,” that could be a sign that guilt is driving the conversation in your head. Think about how much you’re able and willing to take on.

2. Is my home set up properly for an elderly resident?

Imagine you are your parent walking up to your house. Are there stairs to navigate by the front door? If it’s a multistory residence, can Mom or Dad stay in a bedroom with a bathroom on the first floor? If they use a walker or wheelchair, is the bathroom door wide enough for access? Will your home need to be retrofitted with things like grab bars in the bathroom? Can you eliminate any tripping hazards or other safety issues? In other words, can you realistically make your house “elderly friendly?”

3. What is my relationship with my parent like?

There’s a difference between loving your parent dearly and being able to live with them successfully. Do a reality check on how well the two of you get along. If you like to be around each other and know how to work through problems, then you might make a great match. However, if you’ve always butted heads, living with each other will most likely lead to the same sort of conflicts – or worse.

One more consideration: The physical and emotional effects of aging can create changes in your parent’s mood or behavior. Conditions like dementia tend to intensify over time. So, even if you are getting along now, what will happen should a decline in cognitive abilities lead to a change in personality? This is not pleasant to think about – but it’s important to consider what life might look like in the coming months or years

4. How much time do I have to look after my parent?

If you work full time but have other family members in the home, can you tag team care, so your parent has someone on call? Do you have some flexibility with your job to adjust your schedule as needed? Do you have any childcare duties that might conflict with looking after an elderly parent?

5. Is my family ready for this?

Unless you live alone – which we will cover next – you will need to make sure your significant other and/or children are on board with your parent moving in. Depending on how healthy your parent is, and what their personality is like, having them live with you might be a blessing – or something less than that. Think about the needs of everyone in your household. Who might get less of your time and attention now that Mom or Dad is living under your roof? Will the kids need to step up and do more chores? Do you and your spouse enjoy privacy? Schedule a family discussion and make sure everyone is prepared.

6. I live alone – what do I need to be mindful of?

If your parent is relatively healthy and can look after themselves for extended periods, having them at home might work well. On the other hand, if they have a chronic illness, are coping with dementia or are stressed by the chores of day-to-day life, this arrangement can only work if you have an extended, dedicated caregiving team. That might include friends or relatives who live nearby and have the time. Maybe there’s a retired neighbor on your block who can check in on your parent regularly. There may also be options in your area for professional in-home care. Think this all through and make an honest assessment of whether this will work before committing to the move.

7. Am I prepared to be a successful caregiver?

If you are retired or are a homemaker, you might have the time to be your parent’s caregiver. However, having the time doesn’t mean you have the energy, stamina and determination to be a successful caregiver – especially if it’s a full-time job. To succeed, you will need to make sure your parent consumes a healthy, nutritious diet, guide them toward mentally stimulating activities like book clubs, hobbies and other creative endeavors, and schedule time for regular visits with family and friends.

The phrase, “it takes a village” applies to the role of caregiving. Sooner or later, those who attempt to go solo usually wind up with a chronic case of caregiver burnout.

8. How much will it cost – and who will pay for it?

When your parent moves in with you rather than relocating to a senior living community, it could save some money. There will still be new expenses, however. At the low-end, that includes things like food and utilities. If your parent is dealing with chronic health problems, the costs may begin to soar. It’s important to figure out what the expenses might be, and how they will be paid.

Some families charge their parent room and board. If there are additional care costs – such as retrofitting your house or hiring in-home caregivers – who will pay for them? It’s critical to make these decisions before the move happens.

9. What if I live in another state?

You may be wondering if Mom or Dad should leave their community to come live with you. Or you’re thinking, “Should I move closer to my aging parent?” If your parent is moving in with you from another city or state, they will likely lose their social network and may no longer see their friends regularly. That means it’s very important to help your parent stay connected or form new friendships to reduce the chances of becoming lonely and isolated.

If you have a small family or if everyone is busy, look into the availability of a senior center or adult daycare in your neighborhood. You will need to find a replacement for your parent’s previous social life.

10. Will I need to find new healthcare providers?

If your parent is relocating from out of the area, they will require a new primary care doctor and other healthcare professionals. Helping your parent stay as healthy as possible and providing them with the resources to manage ongoing health conditions are key to a successful move into your house.

11. Can I live with my parent and still have a life?

If you work full time or have a busy, active life, don’t underestimate the time involved to look after an elderly adult in your home. If your parent is relatively healthy and active, they might do fine on their own most of the time. This includes setting medical appointments, making transportation arrangements, ordering prescriptions and other supplies, and more. If not, these tasks will fall to you. You must still make time to look after your own welfare. Don’t just schedule an appointment at the doctor for Mom – arrange some self-care for yourself, too. Educate yourself about the ins and outs of caregiving by taking a class or joining a support group.

Why a senior living community might be a great fit for your parent

Now that you’ve considered what it will take for your parent to move into your home – or for you to move into theirs – you might conclude that you are ready to take the plunge. Or, you could be feeling like it’s too much to handle. Fortunately, there are many alternatives to having Mom or Dad live with you – some of which might be close to home. So next, let’s navigate the landscape of senior living communities.

8 reasons senior living might be the best choice for your parent

1. Assisted living communities offer services and amenities that are difficult to replicate at home

These communities typically provide healthy meals, planned events and programs, opportunities for socializing, and comfortable living spaces – all in a safe, tight-knit, self-contained environment. This attractive combination of features isn’t easily replicated at home.

2. Assisted living communities provide professional caregiving

Many assisted living neighborhoods capably manage challenging situations including chronic illnesses and limited mobility. Dedicated caregivers help with the daily activities of life, from bathing, toileting and getting dressed to medication management and more.

3. All-inclusive pricing makes budgeting easy

Assisted living can simplify life for you and your parent because the monthly rental rate includes their apartment, food, utilities, on-site events and programs, and housekeeping. Some communities may include care services in the rental rate, too.

4. Social connection is part of the design

If you are concerned that your parent will lack a social life, the right assisted living community typically maintains a calendar of events featuring group outings and activities such as movie nights and game nights, along with common areas where residents can sit, relax and talk.

5. Support and amenities create more time to enjoy life

Let’s face it: Many older adults are tired of daily tasks like housekeeping, cooking and home maintenance. That’s part of the “assisted” in assisted living. An on-site staff takes care of these things so residents can focus on enjoying life.

6. Apartments are designed for older adults

Assisted living communities often offer a selection of private or shared apartments designed to meet each resident’s personal preferences and budget.

7. Senior living communities support family relations

With the stress and challenges of caregiving taken off your plate, family dynamics shift. You can instead enjoy time with your parent, rather than letting their meals, appointments and overall well-being consume you.

8. Memory care communities support those with cognitive impairments

If your parent has challenges due to Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia, they might do well in a memory care community. In some cases, assisted living communities offer memory care in a separate, secure neighborhood, while some communities provide memory care only. Memory care services focus on safety and security, with staff on-site 24/7 to provide assistance and support as needed.

Some communities tailor their approach to memory care with thoughtful community design and a staff trained to anticipate the needs of each resident. You may also find programs with a strong emphasis on cognitive stimulation.

While moving your parent out of their home can be a challenge, it can also open the door to a better, richer life. So, take the time to think deeply about the move. If you are finding the process to be difficult or overwhelming, know that the feeling is normal. Stay open to all possibilities and you will find the best living arrangement for your parent.

 

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Senior Aging & Health

Benefits of socializing for seniors

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We are social creatures, and connecting with others is beneficial at any age. However, our risk of loneliness and feelings of isolation increase as we get older.

According to the National Institute on Aging, nearly three in 10 senior citizens live alone, and those with cognitive impairments like dementia live with additional obstacles. These feelings of isolation and loneliness can have a negative impact on both mental and physical health.

The good news is there are ways to foster senior social connection that can show an almost immediate improvement to health and well-being. Let’s take a closer look at the impacts of loneliness and isolation, and explore ways to promote senior socialization.

Feeling isolated vs. feeling lonely

“Isolation” and “loneliness” are sometimes used interchangeably, but there’s an important difference.

Isolation is a physical state that impedes having regular contact with others. The size of one’s social network, transportation availability and access to resources are all conditions that prevent making social connections and may contribute to being isolated.

Loneliness is a mental state of emotional distress caused by feeling separated from others. These feelings can be short-term or ongoing.

Living alone does not always make someone feel lonely, but social isolation can sometimes lead to loneliness. Conversely, it’s possible for someone to feel lonely even when they are surrounded by others. It’s important to pay attention to the warning signs of loneliness and social isolation in older adults and take action before health problems occur.

Quick Guide: Creating a Social Senior Lifestyle

Why senior isolation and loneliness are harmful

Isolation and loneliness can impact mental health regardless of age. However, mobility issues and sudden changes in social situation – such as the death of spouse, retirement and family and friends moving away – make older adults more susceptible.

The adverse health effects of isolation and loneliness include an increased risk of:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • High blood pressure
  • Heart disease
  • Stroke
  • Dementia

In an article for the National Institute on Aging, Dr. Stephen Cole, Director of the Social Genomics Core Laboratory at the University of California, Los Angeles, called loneliness “fertilizer for other diseases.” He notes that “the biology of loneliness can accelerate the buildup of plaque in the arteries, help cancer cells grow and spread, and promote inflammation in the brain leading to Alzheimer’s disease.”

Long-term social isolation can also increase the risk of dementia by as much as 64 percent. For people already diagnosed with dementia, lack of social connection can increase the rate of cognitive decline.

Because loneliness comes with so many side effects, including a weakened immune system, Dr. Cole is developing social and psychological interventions to combat loneliness. His research suggests that having a sense of purpose in life is linked to healthier immune cells – and that helping others also helps people feel less lonely.

Obstacles to senior socialization

A lack of social connection can quickly escalate into the very issues that hinder connection, so early intervention is important. Being mindful of these common roadblocks to staying active and cultivating healthy senior friendships is crucial to helping overcome them:

  • Physical ailments
  • Isolation
  • Mobility issues
  • Cognitive decline
  • Loss of a spouse or friend
  • Limited social support network

Fortunately, there are as many benefits to socializing as there are risks to isolation. If an older person you know is already challenged by any of these issues, you can still help them get back on course.

Benefits of socializing for seniors

Countless studies have shown that making meaningful social connections helps older adults feel less isolated and also improves both mental and physical well-being, increasing quality of life in several ways.

Reduces stress – Social activity helps older adults better manage stress, which improves the immune system and cardiovascular health.

Improves brain and body fitness – People with a diverse social network are likely to exercise more, which has physical, emotional and cognitive benefits.

Reduces anxiety and depression – Consistent social activity helps keep these health risks of isolation and loneliness at bay.

Improves emotional well-being – Social interaction fosters self-expression and discovery by connecting us to others and the outside world, all of which helps build a sense of self-worth and boost self-esteem.

Reduces reliance on medication – Being actively engaged with others releases endorphins and hormones that can reduce pain and elevate mood, thereby decreasing the need to turn to medicinal remedies for these issues.

Increases mental alertness – Frequent social engagement provides intellectual and emotional stimulation that can prevent cognitive decline and reduce the risk of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.

Extends life – Being socially active increases longevity. One study showed that those who were socially isolated and lonely had a 50 percent higher risk of dying compared to those who were socially active.

The key to realizing these benefits long-term is consistent social engagement. One study confirmed that the positive effects of being socially active can be seen almost immediately. Research conducted at the Center for Healthy Aging at Penn State revealed that adults between the ages of 70 and 90 who were socially active had better cognitive performance on the day of the interaction and the following two days.

The keys to successful social events for seniors

It’s natural to think that the way to be more socially connected is to be around more people, but it’s more complex than that.

Research has shown the long-term benefits of socializing for seniors require both quality and consistency. Consistency does not mean the quantity of interactions, but rather that they occur on a regular schedule. One nine-month study showed that older adults felt their quality of life improved after participating in just one hour-long weekly activity. Furthermore, one-on-one activities are just as effective loneliness-busters as group activities. It’s not the size of the crowd but the routine occurrence that’s most important.

Here are some common characteristics of successful social activities for older adults.

Gives agency – Having a say in choosing the event has a greater impact on reducing loneliness, as events planned by others can feel patronizing to older adults.

Can be adapted – For instance, karaoke sing-alongs are fun, but consider the style of music – Frank Sinatra or Doris Day may be more appropriate than AC/DC or Lady Gaga.

Feels productive – Events that involve accomplishing tasks or goals rather than passively listening or watching others are more effective at reducing loneliness.

Ways older people can remain socially connected

It’s one thing to know that connection is critical for good health, and another to implement meaningful opportunities for engagement. Here are some ideas to help you plan or create beneficial activities and events.

Get physical – Exercise is a great elixir for loneliness, but it’s also important be mindful of your senior parent’s physical limitations. Some older adults may welcome dancing, whereas others may prefer walking, gardening or chair yoga.

Lend a helping hand – Volunteering boosts the sense of purpose that comes from helping others.

Join group activities – Outings to museums, libraries or church programs can sometimes include free or low-cost dinners, events and educational workshops.

Share their passion – Whether it’s painting, scrapbooking or photography, participating in a favorite hobby at a senior center or community group is a wonderful way to bond with others.

Make a day of it – For those living with memory loss, adult day programs offer opportunities to engage with others. Seek out programs that encourage participant input in the day’s activities.

Play a game – Game nights stimulate the brain, promote camaraderie and build a social network. Such events are popular at churches and community centers – or you can organize your own.

Stay hungry for knowledge – Studies show that an active mind is a happy mind, and opportunities for continued education abound at universities and community colleges – many free of charge.

Get out and about – Joining a friend for an art exhibit, walking the mall or spending some time in the park provide the mental and social stimulation that reduce loneliness.

Widening older adults’ social circles helps them make new connections – and it does not always have to be with people their own age. Intergenerational social interaction can be rewarding for both parties. There are many local resources you can turn to for guidance, such as adult day centers, senior centers or other community and church programs.

People belong together®

Atria was founded on the idea that older adults thrive in an environment that provides daily opportunities for meaningful connection. Our senior living communities reflect this, from our Engage Life® events that help residents reach their potential to the many amenities and services that support togetherness, health and well-being. To learn more, find a community near you.

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Making the Decision

Atria Receives Awards From Caring.com and A Place for Mom

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Awards Determined by Top Reviews from Residents and Families

Atria is proud to announce that 49 communities have been honored with the 2023 Caring Star award – more than any other senior living provider nationwide. Of those, 19 recognize the Atria Senior Living brand, including six Caring Super Star awards. In addition to this stellar performance on Caring.com, A Place for Mom has recognized 74 Atria communities – including 47 within the Atria Senior Living brand – with the 2023 Best of Senior Living award.

Both awards are determined by the reviews of residents and their families on Caring.com and A Place for Mom – two of the leading senior living referral services.

“One of the best thank yous we can receive is when residents and families share the joy they’ve experienced in our communities,” said Sanela Graziose, Executive Senior Vice President of Sales, Marketing & Communications for Atria. “Our communities are home and much more for older adults – offering a lifestyle featuring chef-prepared meals, housekeeping service and a variety of holistic and engaging programs.”

Driven by quality

Atria holds its communities to some of the highest quality standards in the senior living industry. The Quality Enhancement program establishes a universal set of auditable guidelines to ensure consistent quality from one community to the next. Atria’s audit indicators include a variety of clinical factors for its senior living communities, along with a range of resident experience and customer service standards.

“We are very proactive when it comes to quality – we don’t wait for bad things to happen and then follow up. We try to look ahead and prevent issues,” said Sean Purser, Senior Vice President and Chief Quality Officer at Atria. “It has always made me proud to know we provide the best environment in the senior living industry. In the end, customer satisfaction and safety are two of the most important aspects we can provide to our residents.”

Winning communities

The following Atria Senior Living communities received the 2023 Caring Star award from Caring.com and/or 2023 Best of Senior Living award from A Place for Mom.

Caring Star Award

Arizona

•Atria Chandler Villas*

California
• Atria at Foster Square 
• Atria Golden Creek
• Atria Palm Desert*
• Atria San Juan 
• Atria Park of Vintage Hills*

Connecticut
• Atria Darien
• Atria Stamford

Florida
• Atria Park of St. Joseph’s*

Maine
• Atria Kennebunk*

Massachusetts
• Atria Draper Place
• Atria Woodbriar

Nevada
• Atria Summit Ridge*

New York
• Atria Rye Brook
• Atria Tanglewood

Pennsylvania
• Atria Bethlehem

Rhode Island
• Atria Bay Spring Village
• Atria Lincoln Place

Texas
• Atria Canyon Creek

 

Best of Senior Living

Arizona

•Atria Chandler Villas

•Atria Park of Sierra Pointe

California

•Atria at Foster Square

•Atria Del Rey

•Atria Del Sol

•Atria El Camino Gardens

•Atria Hacienda

•Atria La Jolla

•Atria Newport Beach

•Atria Newport Plaza

•Atria Palm Desert

•Atria San Juan

•Atria Santa Clarita

•Atria Sunnyvale

•Atria Tarzana

•Atria Willow Glen

•Atria Park of Vintage Hills

•Rancho Mirage Terrace

Connecticut
• Atria Darien
• Atria Stamford

Georgia

•Atria Park of Tucker

Illinois

•Atria at River Trail

•Atria Park of Glen Ellyn

Maine
• Atria Kennebunk

Massachusetts
• Atria Draper Place

Michigan

•Atria Kinghaven

Nevada
• Atria Summit Ridge

New Jersey

•Atria Tinton Falls

New York

•Atria Forest Hills

•Atria Glen Cove

•Atria on the Hudson

•Atria West 86

•Atria Park of Lynbrook

North Carolina

•Atria Oakridge

•Atria Southpoint Walk

Pennsylvania

•Atria at Cranberry Woods

•Atria Lafayette Hill

•Atria McCandless

Rhode Island
• Atria Lincoln Place

South Carolina

•Atria Forest Lake

Texas
• Atria Canyon Creek

•Atria Carrollton

•Atria Cinco Ranch

•Atria at Hometown

•Atria Sugar Land

•Atria Westchase

•Atria Willow Park

*Winner of Caring Super Star award, for communities who have won a Caring Star award for three or more years.

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Senior Aging & Health

6-Step Guide: Caregiving After a Hospital Discharge

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When a parent or family member is hospitalized, it’s only natural to remain focused on their hospital stay. You may feel overwhelmed with questions about what comes next. How long will they be in the hospital? Are they able to come directly home? Will they need to recover in a rehab center or skilled nursing facility first?

The Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality (AHRQ) reports that almost one out of every five patients goes through “an adverse event” within a month of being discharged. The AHRQ strongly encourages medical professionals to include families in discharge planning, stating that it can “improve patient outcomes, reduce unplanned admissions and increase patient satisfaction.”

The best thing you can do to ensure a healthy transition and strong outcome for your parent is to educate yourself about the discharge planning process and get help from the discharge planners, along with other key members of your parent’s medical team.

Here are some topics to consider, which we’ll go over in this article:

    • What to ask a discharge planner and attending physician
    • Rehab tips that will help you take care of your parent
    • Sensible medication management
    • Guidelines for heading home or transitioning to another facility
    • How a short-term respite care stay can be a great “soft landing” after a hospitalization
    • Why moving to a senior living community might be the best solution for your parent

Step one: Take an active role in discharge planning

Discharge planning is the method used to find out what kind of care a person requires after they are cleared to leave the hospital. Sometimes, that means they will go to a rehab facility or nursing home next. Other times, they will head straight home. Whatever your parent’s destination following a hospital stay, discharge planning is meant to make the transition as easy as possible while keeping your parent safe.

Discharge Checklist: What to Ask Before Your Parent Leaves the Hospital

Here are the key features of a complete discharge plan:

    • Evaluation
    • Post-hospital care instructions
    • Will the patient go straight home or transfer to a different care facility?
    • Follow-up appointments, lab tests, and physical or occupational therapy
    • Contact list with important names and numbers
    • Nutritional information
    • A medication plan
    • Transportation arrangements
    • Special equipment needs, if required
    • Additional resources such as a home care agency, as needed

The bottom line for the caregiver? Detailed, professional discharge planning matters, because when it’s done properly, the person being cared for will be less likely to be readmitted.

Step two: Prepare for a new routine

Even if you are already the primary caregiver, you might need to relearn how to care for an elderly parent in your home following hospitalization.

Changes may include:

    • Personal care: The discharge plan might require your help with personal hygiene, dietary matters, helping your parent get dressed and assistance using the restroom
    • Household tasks: You might need to do things you haven’t done previously such as meal preparation, cleaning the house, doing the laundry and grocery shopping
    • Health matters: There could be new prescriptions to manage, doctors’ appointments to schedule and accompany your parent to, and visits for physical therapy, infusion treatments and more
    • Emotional support: You might need to spend more time with Mom or Dad, engaging them in conversation
    • Lining up the help you need: If a hospital or rehab stay has changed your parent’s needs, you might need to reach out to other resources, such as:
      • Friends, family and neighbors: Perhaps, until now, you’ve been able to care for your aging parent alone. It might be time to expand your network of helpers, many of whom you already know.
      • Community organizations: A detailed discharge plan usually lists some community resources, such as a senior center or adult daycare. If not, ask the discharge planner for local options. Your neighborhood senior center can probably point you in the right direction, too.
      • Home health care: The discharge instructions might recommend in-home care and include a list of local home health agencies. Just know that researching, interviewing and hiring the right help can be a time-intensive process. Ideally, you can talk this through with your parent’s healthcare team while they are still in the hospital.

Step three: Research rehab options if needed

Is your parent’s immediate destination a rehab or skilled nursing facility? If so, the key to success is continuity of care. If the care regimen isn’t laid out clearly, and if a facility is chosen hastily, it might result in your parent having to return to the hospital.

Get real with yourself and anyone else involved in this decision. Do you have time to carefully consider the care options and make the right choice? If not, ask for help.

One idea is to contract with a private geriatric case manager. You will pay for this service, but it might be money well spent. Geriatric case managers, as well as social workers, can speak to their experience with the various care options. Make sure you know the ratings of each facility and read online reviews. The most important thing to think about is quality of care. This is more critical than how close you live to the facility.

Step four: Understand the medication protocol

When it comes to prescription drugs, here are some questions you’ll want answered:

    • What is the reason this medication is being prescribed?
    • What is the length of the course of treatment?
    • What are the possible side effects?
    • Are there other medications, supplements or foods that might interact with the prescription?
    • Is the medication covered by insurance?
    • Is there a generic version of the drug that costs less?
    • How and when will we know if the medication is working?

Step five: What is respite care – and is it right for your parent?

Respite care is a proven method to help aging parents following hospitalization. This short-term assisted living option lets your parent temporarily move to a senior living community to recover from an illness or surgery. It’s also an opportunity for your parent to discover if assisted living is a good fit for them while receiving the help they need to get better.

Every community is different, so the best way to know if it’s the right choice is to visit and ask plenty of questions, such as:

    • What kind of short-term stays are offered?
    • What is the cost of assisted living respite care?
    • What is included in the cost?
    • What kinds of meals and programs are offered?
    • What are the living arrangements like?
    • What amenities are available?
    • What happens if my parent experiences a medical issue?
    • What are your policies regarding visits by family and friends?

Learn more about short-term stays here.

Step six: Consider living full time in a senior living community

Everyone enjoys living independently with as little help as possible, and your aging parent is no different. Hopefully, Mom or Dad can move home and resume life as it was before their hospital visit. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. If your parent’s hospitalization results in them needing more help than before, ask yourself if living at home is the best choice for their well-being.

Sometimes, caring for your parent might mean looking for a permanent care solution. An assisted living community may offer the right combination of professional care, social engagement, proper nutrition and ample opportunities to enjoy activities – and relax.

Here are some things to look for:

    • Does my parent have a degenerative disease or serious medical condition? Assisted living might help them maintain and even improve their quality of life.
    • Will they need daily or even 24/7 in-home care? If so, you will likely find the cost of assisted living to be competitive – and possibly even less.
    • Is your parent relatively healthy but tired of the upkeep, maintenance and daily tasks of homeownership? Assisted living can relieve them of these burdens while affording them more freedom to enjoy life.

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you’ll want to learn more about assisted living.

Doing your part to encourage a healthy outcome

While an unexpected health event can be a lot to take in, approach the discharge planning process in a serious, buttoned-up fashion. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about your elderly parent’s care. If the answer provided isn’t clear, ask for clarification. Do your homework and give your parent the best possible opportunity for a complete and healthy recovery after they’ve been discharged.