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Questions to ask when touring a senior living community

It’s important to prepare yourself with senior care information and tools you can use before taking a tour of a senior living community. Reading online reviews can give you an idea of what to expect, but the best way to get a clear picture of community life is to visit and experience it in person. Having a list of questions specific to your situation is also a good way to plan ahead.

Are the needs of your parent or family member growing faster than you anticipated? Are you stressed more than you’d care to admit? The earlier you look into communities and other senior care resources , the more confident you will feel about making decisions regarding your parent’s care.

Finding a new community to call home can be difficult at any age, but it’s especially challenging for an older adult who may be firmly rooted in a family home where many memories were made. The transition from home to community can stir feelings of excitement for some, and sadness for others.

Below, you’ll find questions to help initiate conversations and tips for finding the best fit for your parent’s needs.

6 questions and other important considerations when touring a senior living community

Prepare a checklist of questions for the assisted living or retirement community beforehand. If your parent is open to the idea, have them join the tour with you. If not, consider bringing them with you after weighing the pros and cons of each community.

 

  1. How does the community make residents feel at home?
  2. What training is required of staff members? Are any healthcare professionals on call?
  3. What are the safety and security protocols for diseases and natural disasters?
  4. What services are included in the rental rate?
  5. What levels of care services are offered?
  6. Are financial planning or other resources available?

How does the community make residents feel at home?

Take notice of the property around the senior living community. Look for easily accessible walking paths and common areas such as gardens, patios and courtyards. Upon entering the community, ask yourself these questions: Did I receive a friendly greeting? Are common areas tidy? Do residents look happy and engaged? Are the hallways and common areas well-lit, spacious and easy to navigate?

When touring apartments, inquire about privacy protocols and what residents are allowed to bring from home and what is prohibited. Is the senior living community pet-friendly? If so, what breeds or types of animals are accepted? If possible, request the floor plans of available options. If décor and customization to the apartment is important, ask what is allowed and if upgrades are available. Make sure to ask about accessible accommodations if your parent requires a wheelchair, walker or cane.

What training is required of staff members? Are any healthcare professionals on call?

It’s important to get a feel for the team that interacts with residents the most. After all, they are vital members of the community. Inquire about the training and various credentials required of staff members. Is the community fully staffed? What is the staff-to-resident ratio?

What about continuous training and education to keep employees informed on best practices and the latest research? Knowing these specifics can provide you with comfort and peace of mind.

How long is the average length of tenure for staff members? Loyal employees are indicators of a positive workplace. Observe staff and resident interactions. Do staff members call residents by their names? Do they seem warm and approachable?

Are there nurses or medical professionals on-site? If your parent requires specific assistance due to chronic illness, for conditions such as diabetes or Parkinson’s disease, ask if staff members have experience managing those needs or addressing their specific diagnosis.

What are the safety and security protocols for diseases and natural disasters?

Questions about safety and security are most likely at the top of your priority list. Is there round-the-clock security, seven days a week? In case of natural disasters – like fires, floods, earthquakes and power outages during extreme weather – what is the protocol? How are personal emergencies handled? A community that has invested in proper safety and security measures for the well-being of their residents is the hallmark of a residence that is dedicated to high-quality senior living care.

Add questions to your checklist about safety measures taken during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic and how the community continues to mitigate the spread of contagious diseases like influenza, respiratory infections and the stomach flu.

Ask about safety equipment and devices such as easily accessible fire alarms, pull-cords in the bathrooms, handrails in hallways and emergency alert devices such as wristbands or pendants. If your parent needs memory care, ask about safety implementations that contribute to a secure neighborhood.

What services are included in the rental rate?

A major perk that draws older adults to a retirement community or senior living community is the services that enable a fuller, more flexible lifestyle. Is housekeeping available? Laundry service? If chef-prepared meals are an option, what selections are on the menu? Are there options for low-sodium and other specific diets? How many meals will your parent enjoy on a daily basis? How many dining venues are there? If possible, grab a bite to eat in one of the venues. After all, the best way to learn about the dining experience is to sample the cuisine yourself.

Is transportation offered? If so, how often? The more day-to-day tasks that are handled by a dedicated staff, the more time and energy your parent can put toward things they love.

While you want to make sure your parent is supported with all they need, don’t forget to inquire about the services that foster connection, curiosity and growth.

Are there events planned for residents? Ask to see a calendar. Is there anything your parent may find interesting and engaging? Are there group outings? Any social events? Are classes offered to enrich the mind? Are there groups that get together based on common interests? How are events kept fresh and engaging for residents?

Ask if you can attend an event, class or workshop. Are there programs designed with cognitive and/or physical health in mind? These fine details will elevate your parent’s experience and encourage them to stay engaged and active – both which are keys to aging successfully.

What levels of care services does this community offer?

If your parent needs additional care services, be prepared with questions to ask assisted living caregivers as well as information about your parent’s specific needs. Whether they are relatively independent but need help with medication management or they have limited mobility and find activities of daily living difficult to manage on their own, it’s important to be clear about the support that is needed – to make sure the community can accommodate your parent’s needs. Inquire about what kind of assistance and services are available. Does someone accompany residents to each meal? Can a staff member help them get dressed or assist with grooming?

If your parent has been diagnosed with a degenerative disease or a condition that you anticipate worsening over time, like multiple sclerosis, lupus or Parkinson’s, ask if the staff has experience managing that condition and if the assisted living community offers progressive care services.

Is care customizable? Are personal check-ins offered? How is medication managed? Do staff members administer medication? Is there a licensed physician or nurse on staff? What about certified nursing assistants? Ask if an assessment is required and what it entails. How many caregivers are there overnight?

Are financial planning or other resources available?

The person conducting the initial tour will probably wait to discuss fees, rates and other costs until the end, but it’s always helpful to be prepared with questions before you walk through the door. Research senior living communities beforehand to acquire some understanding of pricing to avoid sticker shock.

What is the pricing model of the senior living or assisted living community you’re touring? What services are included in the rental rate? For example, are housekeeping, utilities, dining and transportation included? What about amenities such as a spa, fitness center and other communal benefits?

Don’t assume all care services are offered at a flat rate in an assisted living community. Ask specific questions about expenses, especially if your parent has specific needs. Is assisted living pricing tiered based on the level of care needed? Are services offered à la carte or are there additional fees? Ask about any move-in fees or other introductory costs associated with being a new resident. Also, ask about refund policies and billing and payment policies.

After you receive pricing information, ask about financial planning assistance. While the administrative staff at an assisted living community or retirement community aren’t substitutes for financial advisors, they may be able to introduce you to helpful contacts and resources, which can help you determine the smartest way to pay for senior living.

Here’s a helpful tip for creating the most purposeful checklist of questions: Discuss the idea of transitioning into a senior living community with your parent. You may be initially met with resistance – making you hesitant to broach the conversation again in the future. Your parent may feel they would be sacrificing their freedom, or they may not understand the full benefits of senior living. When the timing feels right and they seem receptive, gently revisit the conversation to see what their wishes and desires may be.

Maybe the size of the living space is a deal-breaker or your parent wants to stay close to their place of worship. Do they prefer an idyllic country setting over a bustling urban one or vice versa? Let their input guide you. You may want to search online for options or ask your inner circle – after all, nothing beats a word-of-mouth recommendation. Eventually, you’ll want to schedule a time to visit a senior living community. Consider only touring a few of your top choices with your parent to avoid making the experience overwhelming.

Interested in visiting an Atria community? Both in-person and virtual tours are available at most communities.

We’ll ask a few questions to find out what you’re looking for in a senior living community. Then, we’ll create an experience that focuses on the aspects that are most important to you. Bring a comprehensive list of questions or concerns you have. We’d be delighted to show you everything Atria has to offer.

Our Checklist for What to Ask a Senior Living Community (PDF)

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Is there financial planning for senior living?

As you provide care for your aging parent or family member, you may discover the cost of in-home assistance is growing along with their needs, or perhaps their needs are increasingly straining your mental and emotional well-being. Either way, you’re considering senior living as a possible alternative. However, cost is an important factor. Whether or not you or your parent can afford senior living is a question you cannot avoid, but you shouldn’t let assumptions about cost cause you to jump to any conclusions. Thoughtful and careful planning may take a bit of time, energy and discussion with your parent, but it may be worth the investment.

QUESTION: Can you afford a senior living community?

ANSWER: The average cost of assisted living or senior living can vary depending on your desired location, what level of care is needed and what type of community is desired.

Modifying your parent’s existing home for safety and paying for in-home assistance, utilities, mortgage, transportation and other necessities adds up quickly. You may find that senior living actually saves you and your parent money because it covers many living expenses in a single monthly rate.

QUESTION: How do you pay for assisted living? Is there a list of resources?

ANSWER: Early research and planning are key parts of preparation. While many people prefer to not contemplate or discuss this until much later in life, planning early could potentially save you money in the long run.

Below, you will find ideas, resources and tools that can help you cover the cost of assisted living.

  1. Traditional resources
  2. Veterans benefits
  3. Loans
  4. Life insurance policies
  5. Long-term care benefit plans
  6. Real estate

Working with a financial professional can help you identify the best course of action for your situation, which may include a combination of options.

Traditional resource

There are many ways to pay for senior living, but the most common method is to use private funds, such as savings, investments and selling high-value items such as antiques, automobiles and furniture. Pensions, Social Security and retirement accounts (401ks and IRAs) can also help pay for senior living.

Veterans benefits

Is your parent a veteran? The Department of Veterans Affairs has established the Aid and Attendance Pension for veterans and their surviving spouses. This program can help fund senior living. To qualify, a veteran must have:

  • At least 90 days of active military service with at least one day of service during a period of national conflict, with honorable discharge, or be their single surviving spouse
  • A medical diagnosis requiring assistance with two or more activities of daily living
  • Insufficient monthly income to purchase required care
  • Limited liquid assets, such as savings and retirement funds

If this may be a viable option to help cover the expense of senior living, please contact your local Veterans Affairs office for more information.

Loans

Your parent may consider tapping into their home’s equity as a possible resource for additional income; it may also be tax-deductible. A home equity line of credit is similar to a home equity loan; however, the line of credit allows you to borrow from an available pool of money as needed and only pay interest on the money borrowed. A reverse mortgage works in some situations, though it requires at least one homeowner to continue living in the house.

Personal loans may be a good short-term option, although interest isn’t tax-deductible and rates can be high, so they generally aren’t suggested. Talk to a trusted financial advisor to explore if this option is potentially useful for your family.

Life insurance policies

There are several ways your parent can use their current life insurance policy to free up cash that can be used to help fund their living needs. Here are a few things to consider:

Your parent can take a loan from their current life insurance policy, with the understanding that it will reduce their policy benefits accordingly

A life insurance policy can be surrendered to receive a cash payout

Learn if their policy features an accelerated death benefit rider, which may give your parent access to a portion of the death benefit if they become terminally ill

Your parent can take a life settlement, where he or she can sell their existing life insurance policy to a third-party company that typically pays more than the surrender value

Your parent may be able to convert their life insurance policy to a long-term care benefit plan

Before making a decision, talk to your trusted health insurance professional or financial advisor.

Long-term care benefit plans

Long-term care insurance covers individuals who need care or assistance with several activities of daily living, such as bathing and getting dressed. Coverage of expenses begins after a designated waiting period.

If your parent needs assisted living, nursing home care or in-home care services and does not have long-term care insurance or the funds to cover associated costs – and they do not qualify for Medicaid – they may be able to convert their existing life insurance policy to a long-term care benefit plan.

This plan covers assisted living and long-term care expenses at the time services are needed, without requiring your parent to spend down their financial assets to qualify for Medicaid coverage.

For more information on converting a life insurance policy into a long-term care plan, contact your trusted insurance professional or financial advisor.

Real estate

While listing and selling your parent’s home through a real estate agent is a good option, many families capitalize on real estate investments without giving up their homes. Your parent may consider selling their home to a family member to keep it in the family, or they may want to rent their home to a family member until everyone is ready to make a long-term decision.

It’s important to keep in mind that the sale of a property could also include a tax payment resulting from appreciating over time. Be sure to consult with a financial advisor or certified public accountant to fully understand the tax implications of selling a property.

These options are simply a starting point for you and your parent. Explore all possible options with a trusted tax professional or financial advisor to determine which options work best for you and your unique financial situation.

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Atria Senior Living wins 73 awards

Atria Senior Living communities are recipients of 38 Caring Star Awards and 35 Best of Senior Living Awards for 2022. 

“It’s an honor to receive these awards, especially because they are directly based on the words and experiences of our residents and their families,” said Sanela Graziose, Executive Vice President of Sales, Marketing and Communications at Atria Senior Living. “Our communities are home and so much more for our residents. It’s where they enjoy chef-prepared meals together with neighbors, attend events and programs curated to their interests and receive support from professional care staff.”  

“Adult children want to help their parent picture themselves living in a senior living community, and online reviews are a smart resource for them to have at their fingertips as they begin having conversations with their parents about senior living,” Graziose said. “Seniors and their adult children want to imagine this decision as one where they enjoy staying connected to each other, their neighbors and the larger community.”  

These accolades are a testament to our commitment to provide quality in every facet of the daily experience for residents and their families. Our Quality Enhancement program was created to support this commitment. This comprehensive yearly review measures roughly 300 aspects of community life – from landscaping and dining to housekeeping and care services – and guides the Atria staff to ensure things are done the right way, every time. 

38 Atria Senior Living communities received the Caring Star Award 

The 2022 Caring Star is awarded by Caring.com – a leading senior living referral service and the nation’s top site for senior care reviews – and are based on reviews from residents and their families. The awarded communities include: 

Atria at the Arboretum – Austin, TX  

Atria Bay Spring Village – Barrington, RI  

Atria Bethlehem – Bethlehem, PA

Atria Briarcliff Manor – Briarcliff Manor, NY  

Atria Canyon Creek – Plano, TX  

Atria Chandler Villas – Chandler, AZ  

Atria Cutter Mill – Great Neck, NY

Atria Darien – Darien, CT

Atria Del Rey – Rancho Cucamonga, CA  

Atria Hacienda – Palm Desert, CA  

Atria at Hometown – North Richland Hills, TX  

Atria Kennebunk – Kennebunk, ME

Atria Las Posas – Camarillo, CA  

Atria Longmeadow Place – Burlington, MA  

Atria Marina Place – North Quincy, MA  

Atria Merrimack Place – Newburyport, MA A 

Atria Palm Desert – Palm Desert, CA  

Atria Park of San Pablo – Jacksonville, FL  

Atria on Roslyn Harbor – Roslyn, NY

Atria Rye Brook – Rye Brook, NY  

Atria Sugar Land – Sugar Land, TX  

Atria Willow Park – Tyler, TX

Atria Woodbriar – Falmouth, MA  

Atria Retirement Alexis Gardens – Toledo, OH 

Atria Retirement Blue Water Lodge – Fort Gratiot Township, MI 

Atria Retirement Genesee Gardens – Flint Township, MI 

Atria Retirement Golden Oaks – Yucaipa, CA 

Atria Retirement Lodge at Cold Spring – Rocky Hill, CT  

Atria Retirement Maple Downs – Fayetteville, NY  

Atria Retirement Maple Suites – Dover, New Hampshire 

Atria Retirement Niagara Village – Erie, PA 

Atria Retirement Peninsula – Gig Harbor, Washington 

Atria Retirement Rancho Village – Palmdale, CA 

Atria Retirement Simi Hills – Simi Valley, CA 

35 Atria Senior Living communities received the Best of Senior Living Award 

The Best of Senior Living Award is also determined solely by reviews from residents and their families on SeniorAdvisor.com. The awarded communities include: 

Atria Almaden – San Jose, CA 

Atria Bell Court Gardens – Tucson, AZ 

Atria Campana Del Rio – Tucson, AZ 

Atria Chandler Villas – Chandler, AZ 

Atria Cinco Ranch – Katy, TX 

Atria Collwood – San Diego, CA 

Atria Cypresswood – Spring, TX 

Atria Del Sol – Mission Viejo, CA 

Atria Forest Lake – Columbia, SC 

Atria Golden Creek – Irvine, CA 

Atria Hertlin Place – Lake Ronkonkoma, NY 

Atria Kennebunk – Kennebunk, ME 

Atria Kinghaven – Riverview, MI 

Atria Kingwood – Kingwood, TX 

Atria La Jolla – San Diego, CA 

Atria Las Posas – Camarillo, CA 

Atria Marland Place – Andover, MA 

Atria Newport Plaza – Newport Beach, CA 

Atria on Roslyn Harbor – Roslyn, NY 

Atria Palm Desert – Palm Desert, CA 

Atria Park of San Mateo – San Mateo, CA 

Atria Park of Vintage Hills – Temecula, CA 

Atria Plainview – Plainview, NY 

Atria Rye Brook – Rye Brook, NY 

Atria San Juan – San Juan Capistrano, CA 

Atria Santa Clarita – Santa Clarita, CA 

Atria Stamford – Stamford, CA 

Atria Sugar Land – Sugar Land, TX 

Atria Summit Hills – Crestview Hills, KY 

Atria Sunnyvale – Sunnyvale, CA 

Atria Tarzana – Tarzana, CA 

Atria Westchase – Houston, TX 

Atria Willow Glen – San Jose, CA 

Atria Willow Park – Tyler, TX 

Crestavilla – Laguna Niguel, CA 

If you or someone you know wants to learn more about Atria, visit our website to discover the location nearest you, schedule a private tour, or perhaps even a short-term stay to experience everything our vibrant communities have to offer. 

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What you need to know about senior living

Senior living can be a complex term for many, describing everything from independent living to a skilled nursing facility – which are two distinctly different living environments.

It’s important to know the various options of senior living, so that if the time ever comes to make a decision of where and when to move your parent or family member, you are prepared and confident in your choice.

In this video, Abby Figueroa, Senior Vice President of Functional Operations at Atria, explains how senior living communities are not the same as nursing homes, and provides more detail about the two different options designed specifically for older adults.

What is senior living?

Generally speaking, senior living can be anything from apartments, condos or townhouses specifically for those 55+ – commonly referred to as “senior housing” – to a thoughtfully designed community where the cost of care, utilities and more are covered under one monthly rate.

Some senior living communities are equipped with amenities such as salons and barber shops, fitness centers, swimming pools and restaurants. Many have a staff that can plan events, group outings and other opportunities to reach personal goals, explore personal interests or simply enjoy the company of others. Senior living communities provide all the comforts of home, without the responsibilities associated with homeownership. Daily tasks like housekeeping, cooking, home maintenance and even transportation are handled for the residents by a dedicated staff.

If your parent lives alone, then he or she would greatly benefit from an all-inclusive community rather than simply an apartment or condo. Many senior living residents report feeling empowered and fulfilled while their adult children witness an improvement to their parents’ mental and emotional well-being.

These types of senior living communities typically fall into three common categories: independent living or retirement communities, assisted living or supportive living, and memory care.

What is independent living?

If your parent leads an active, independent life – and no longer wants the hassle of home ownership and daily tasks like housekeeping – they are probably best suited for independent living. These communities provide daily opportunities for social engagement and the freedom to pursue personal interests without worrying about cooking, cleaning, transportation and home maintenance. Many independent living communities allow residents to arrange third-party home health services in the event care is needed.

What is assisted or supportive living?

Older adults who would benefit from discreet care are best suited for an assisted living community, which is sometimes referred to as supportive living. Here, your parent would enjoy opportunities to socialize and pursue personal interests without the burden of housekeeping and cooking – just like an independent living community. However, with the added benefit of 24-hour support with personal care, medication assistance and incontinence management, your parent will be able to feel more empowered and self-reliant, knowing their needs will be quickly and expertly handled. To provide another layer of professional support, assisted living communities can employ full-time licensed nurses or a physician.

Some independent and assisted living communities partner with rehab facilities to offer therapeutic services on-site. Alternatively, therapists are often able to make “house calls” at the community.

What is memory care?

If your parent has challenges due to Alzheimer’s or other forms of memory impairment, they would greatly benefit from a memory care community. These safe and secure environments offer round-the-clock staff to assist and support with activities of daily living, medication management and more, plus auxiliary programs like support groups for caregivers, programs geared to improve cognitive health, and events to keep residents happy and engaged.

A thoughtfully designed memory care community will leave no detail unturned for the well-being of residents. For example, playing music throughout common spaces and using vibrantly colored dinnerware to increase food recognition and appetite all play a part.

How are senior living communities different from nursing homes?

The residents who live in nursing homes or skilled nursing facilities often have conditions best treated with long-term palliative care or prescription medication administration. They may also require specialized rehab services such as speech or occupational therapy, though these services can also be arranged in senior living communities through a third-party provider. The primary focus of nursing homes is to provide 24-hour supervision and medical attention.

Some people may stay for short-term rehab following a hospitalization. Some nursing homes may offer hospice care.

Because of its clinical setting, nursing homes are restrictive by nature – especially when considering the lack of events and opportunities for social connection that are offered in independent and assisted living communities.

As you continue to research senior living communities and senior care options available to you, make notes to compare the cost and quality of each option. Consider visiting each community alone for preliminary observations, and then – when the time feels right – with your parent to see how they feel about it. You may even be able to arrange an overnight trial or short-term stay to test the waters of senior living.

If researching and visiting senior living communities creates resistance from your parent, let them know you are simply preparing in case the need ever arises. Being informed and knowing your options leads to better decision making. The staff at each community can help answer any questions you have, whether your family is ready to make a decision or just researching.

 

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Caregiver stress: 10 ways to take care of yourself

Caregiving comes with complex emotions and experiences. As an adult child, you are proud. Caring for your aging parent while they remain in their own home – or living in your home – has given you a sense of meaning and purpose. However, you may feel isolated, stressed and tired. You’re worried about letting your parent down and fearful about your parent’s health and happiness as their needs continue to grow.

Additionally, you may have lost your sense of self and your parent-child relationship in the role of caregiving. You may be noticing how much of your time and energy has been consumed with caregiving. Now, there is little time for the things you once enjoyed, like hobbies, activities and time with your own family. You may not be sure how to regain control of your life.

While caregiving can be a rewarding experience that can strengthen the bond between you and your family, it can also be a stressful situation to navigate. Caregiver burnout, or caregiver stress syndrome, can happen quickly if you do not monitor your own well-being. Being informed of symptoms is important for both a caregiver and the person they’re caring for.

“Caregiver education provides an understanding of what is happening and what to expect,” said Nancy Hendley-Branscomb, Dementia Care Trainer at CaringKind. “It seems to ease burnout and can lessen the burden.”

Caregiver burnout symptoms include:

  • Feeling sad or depressed
  • Feeling worried or anxious
  • Increased irritability
  • Feelings of resentment
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Feeling isolated or lonely
  • Chronic headaches or bodily pain

No matter if you’re new to caregiving or have been providing care to your aging parent for years, it’s never too early or too late to implement practices to minimize caregiver fatigue. As you take better care of yourself, you will find you are able to better care for your parent and those who depend on you.

10 effective ways to manage caregiver stress

 

  1. Establish boundaries
  2. Accept your limitations
  3. Ask for help – and take it
  4. Get organized
  5. Research senior care and plan ahead
  6. Take advantage of respite care
  7. Make time and space for yourself
  8. Take a vacation or FMLA
  9. Celebrate small wins
  10. Seek support and talk to someone who understands

Establish boundaries

For many, this is easier said than done. No one wants to say no to someone they love and respect, especially when that person has done so much for you. However, boundaries are imperative to protecting yourself and stabilizing your relationship. Boundaries can also help you honor yourself while mitigating feelings of resentment and emotional bankruptcy. It’s okay to say no to things that would put your emotional, mental and physical well-being at risk.

Accept your limitations

More often than not, caregiving for an aging parent lands on one child. As much as you may try, you cannot do everything – and attempting to do so is a one-way ticket to caregiver burnout. Discuss with your parent what you can and can’t do. Be honest and realistic about what is possible while still honoring your boundaries and maintaining a healthy relationship with your parent. Do what you’re able to do and remember to show yourself grace for what you cannot do.

Ask for help – and take it

Half the challenge of managing caregiver stress is finding help. The other half is accepting it. A recent study reported that one out of five caregivers of older adults feels alone. It’s okay to feel isolated in your role as a caregiver, but chances are you have more support than you realize. Sit down and speak with your family about the stress you’re experiencing while caregiving and ask if they can lend a helping hand. Also, look to your community for services designed to assist while you take care of your parent.

Get organized

Disorganization will exacerbate caregiver stress. Getting things in order will help you realize what is possible, actualize goals and keep roles clearly defined if others are helping you or if your parent handles some aspects of their life independently. Approach caring for your aging parent in a methodical way by making lists and a separate calendar for your parent’s needs. This will help you remember appointments and meetings, as well as establishing and keeping track of caregiving goals.

Another helpful tip is to keep important documents, forms and contact information in a secure, easily accessible place. If your parent has multiple doctors, keep a notebook dedicated to their appointments so you can write down information from their physicians.

Research senior care and plan ahead

If you haven’t done so already, research what senior care options are available to you, even if you aren’t ready to utilize those resources. For example, what are your best options for assisted living communities? Which hospital would you request your parent be transported to if there was an accident? What would your parent want if they were no longer able to make decisions about their well-being?

Do your future self a favor by getting ahead of difficult conversations around the what-ifs. Know your parent’s wishes and understand your options around them. Broach the conversation of advance directives with your parent and family. Having plans in place in case of an accident or mishap will reduce your stress and anxiety.

Take advantage of respite care

Respite care is designed to provide short-term assistance to caregivers. It allows you to take a break from the demands of caregiving without having to make a long-term decision about someone else caring for your parent or family member. Look to an assisted living community in your area to provide short-term assistance.

Many families and older adults are introduced to assisted living communities through a short-term stay. And, because older adults enjoy the events, amenities and opportunities to connect with others – and families enjoy the peace of mind they experience – short-term stays often transition to a move into the community.

Make time and space for yourself

Contrary to what you may think, putting all of your excess time and energy into helping your parent is not good for either of you. As the old saying goes, “You cannot pour from an empty cup.” Nearly a quarter of Americans say caregiving has made their health worse. On average, most caregivers provide about 22.3 hours of care per week to their parent or family member. Of course, those hours increase if your parent lives with you. Be intentional about addressing and taking care of your needs so you do not put your own physical and mental health at risk.

Eat well. Stay active. Dive back into hobbies and things that bring you joy. Make time to reconnect with your children, friends or spouse. Taking time for yourself may feel strange at first, and you may even have some guilt about it. It is common to lose your sense of self while caregiving, but getting back to familiar and gratifying activities is a step in the right direction to reconnect to the best version of yourself.

Take a vacation or FMLA

If you are juggling caregiving and a career, you are not alone. In fact, 61 percent of caregivers in the United States work full time. More people are taking paid time off than ever before to help manage caregiver stress while working. If you have accrued vacation hours or sick days, take that time to focus on yourself. If your employer offers FMLA, talk to your HR department about how to use this benefit.

Celebrate small wins

When managing caregiver stress, the goal is progress, not perfection. A small win could look like taking a day to yourself, firmly establishing a boundary or enjoying a dinner with your spouse or closest friends. Pat yourself on the back for each successful attempt at making time to care for yourself while caring for others.

Seek support and talk to someone who understands

The stress of caring for an aging parent can be overwhelming, especially when you feel as if you had no choice in the matter. Sometimes, simply talking about caregiving burnout to a family member or friend will temporarily help you feel better, but it does little to address larger problems. If you find yourself exhibiting signs of high stress while caring for your parent, consider counseling or support groups in your area.

“The value of support groups cannot be overestimated,” said Hendley-Branscomb.

Professional therapy, as well as conversing with those who can truly empathize with and understand your current situation, can guide you to helpful resolutions. They can help you establish boundaries, understand the emotions you may be feeling and develop personalized ways to deal with the stress of caring for an aging parent. These services could also help you facilitate more productive conversations with your parent and other family members.

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Choosing the right community for a short-term stay

What is respite care? That’s one of the most frequently asked questions that senior living professionals receive. Effectively, respite care for the elderly amounts to a short term assisted living option for older adults who want to experience how friendly and supportive senior living can be, or to recover from an illness or a surgery. Read on for an overview of how respite stays benefit older adults and caregivers alike.

Join a community

Becoming a part of a senior living community is a serious decision, and short-term respite stays can provide older adults with a glimpse into what life is like at a community. Guests can get to know the other residents, sample the culinary options, exercise at the fitness centers, and experience the services and amenities for themselves. That way, they can be sure they’re making the right decision when choosing to live in a community.

A place to recover

Following surgery or a stay at a hospital, older adults may not be able to recover at home. Instead, they might consider recuperating in a senior respite care setting. As they regain their strength, a caregiving staff can assist them round-the-clock with medical management, dressing, and eating, as they regain their strength.

Questions to ask a community

Respite care can be a complex topic, so when exploring different respite options, be sure to come equipped with the questions to help you find the right community. Those questions might include the following:

  • What type of respite care services does the community offer
  • What type of training does their staff receive?
  • How much does short-term assisted living cost?
  • How do they handle and mitigate medical emergencies?
  • Is there a limit to how many hours of respite care a guest is allowed?
  • What accommodations and amenities are available in their community?

Short-term stays at Atria

Atria’s door is always open for those who want to recover or rediscover a vibrant way of life in a supportive environment. We consider respite stays an excellent way for older adults to get a feel for a community, prepare for assisted living, and gauge how much caregiver support they need before transitioning into their next long-term living option. Find out more about the industry-leading care services that Atria offers – for full-time and short-term residents alike.

If you or someone you know wants to learn more about Atria, visit AtriaSeniorLiving.com/FindACommunity to discover the location nearest you.